Over the past few days I have overdosed my mind with information about the #metoo. its a look down the rabbit hole. its as hard hitting as a punch in my gut or some random uncle groping my ass.. yes i still chose to call that monster uncle to remind me not to like any uncles in particular, because in my 28 years i have met one who wont say anything sexually or sexist. All the others always have some comment on my weight, my body, my lack of girly chirpiness, me failure as a female for not getting them water… so i am entiteled to say I dont like any uncle..
so back to why i love the #metoo movement.
- It bring out the magnitude of issue. I urge everyone male I know to read the hashtag and their timeline on any given social media is blowing up. Its a shocking perspective to those who have chose to read it.
2. Its makes some men think about the time they indulged in sexist and sexualised banter that would be uncomfortable and could be traumatising to someone. I am thankful to so many men who have responded with #sodonechilling.. picking their own mindsets apart to setting aside these roles. I believe that these men will be more considerate when they pick funny stories about a girl friend next time..
3.It has brought forward that women help in so many ways to keep up these patrichical thoughts. They normalise it, they diter our thoughts from how to react to how to prevent it next time. They work hard to keep their husbands, boyfriends, sons or male friends privilege high up and push blame, guilt and shame on females.
4.another important aspect that has come up is the number of women who have shared the time it started was when they were as young as 5 or 8 years. That is when females of the homo sapiens are being groped and pinched and sexualised by stranger, known adults and family.
5.another aspect of the #metoo is that it has brought so many men out to tell us about their stories. men have found a way to talk about sexual abuse without getting triggered for male bashing. Though it might seem as a small number.. its the biggest any sexual abuse campaign has received..
6.most importantly it brought in spotlight the nuances of sexism and sexuallised language we all accepting as normal. Those casual comments that these uncles make to feel more relatable or to assert authority. the subtle ways our language are more victim focused and doesnt take about perpetrator at all.
7. it gives me hope that maybe one day the internet will be a place to safely say “i am excited for tonights garba” or “kisses and hug are how i liked to be greeted” or “in mood ” without wondering if this will send out invited to random people sending dick pics or addresses to come see them for more kisses and hugs,
This is written by one of the men.. and i know i have no right to use other peoples content and tweets without permission. i am sorry for doing it.. this is my cope bag. and i next time i am groped or made fun of.. i will come back to this.. read this and pray more men take up the mantel to be more sensitive and more human. To humanise their mind that have been dehumanised by years of patriarchal ideas and concepts..